I've been watching '49 Up', the UK documentary in which a number of English boys and girls are interviewed at age seven, and then every seven years thereafter. The program makes compelling viewing, and I'm very grateful to each of the contributors for sharing so honestly. I'm especially grateful given that several of them confess to their discomfort with the periodic interviews, saying that they dread this intrusion in their lives, don't enjoy revealing their personal issues on camera, and find it unpleasant that viewers interpret their lives in ways that are simply not accurate.

So I thought I'd begin this blog by saying 'thank you' to the generous men and women whose stories are shared internationally through the Seven Up series, because even though they share reluctantly, they enrich our lives as we sit watching.

It's quite an extraordinary thing to see a life on fast forwards: a seven year old child in black-and-white footage who speaks up clearly and precisely about his or her likes and dislikes suddenly reappears as a tentative or resistant teenager; then we meet them again as a young adult blossoming into a new career or a new relationship, then as a  mature adult who is reassessing life having been hurt by a painful divorce, perhaps... It's a privilege to learn from their lessons and a joy to celebrate their triumphs with them.

Being a writer, life stories deeply interest me, and I particularly appreciate honest and heart-felt sharing because when we allow ourselves to be real and self-revealing, we dispel taboos and we validate both ourselves and others. Each person who comes out from behind the social mask to be real is a blessing in a world that is often more concerned about appearances than authenticity. I've had a few reminders in recent times about my own tendency to smile politely when I don't feel like it at all, and I'm challenging myself to step up and be more authentic, albeit respectfully.

Speaking of respect, I salute Michael Apted, the Director of the series, who plays his intrusive interviewer role with great sensitivity, it seems to me. And while I am sure that his interviewees would not always agree with me, as he certainly hones in on all the core issues and asks very confronting questions at times, again, the contribution that this program makes to our understanding of ourselves and each others is significant. So thank you to the Seven Uppers.

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0 # Helen Patrice 2010-12-16 09:19
I think honesty is nearly always useful. I remember years ago being upset that I seemed to be the only mother in a street full of young mums who wasn't coping. I cried, I suffered what was much later diagnosed as post-natal depression, and I didn't understand why I was the only one crying. My Reiki Master, Rosemary, said that perhaps I was the only one being honest about it, that the others were crying, but behind closed doors, and not questioning how they felt about motherhood.
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0 # sally sudweeks 2010-12-16 09:44
:D Congratulations Liliane on your achievements and your persistence. I have continued to follow your path and part of the philosophy you promote can only be reflected in your achievements.
I hope all the others involved with you and yourself have a wonderful christmas. I will continue to watch your blog and hopefully add some wise words to it.
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0 # Coralie 2010-12-16 13:42
I saw this series many years ago and I also enjoyed it. What an insight into people's lives! It would be interesting to see what didn't make the cut into the final documentary.

Also, welcome to the world of blogging! Good to see you here. :-)
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0 # Julia Gardiner 2010-12-16 17:18
Hi Liliane! Good to see you blogging. I look forward to reading you.
Love and light for the holdiay season and dream big in 2011!
Julia :roll:
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0 # Liliane Grace 2010-12-16 19:05
Quoting sally sudweeks:
:D Congratulations Liliane on your achievements and your persistence. I have continued to follow your path and part of the philosophy you promote can only be reflected in your achievements.
I hope all the others involved with you and yourself have a wonderful christmas. I will continue to watch your blog and hopefully add some wise words to it.

Thank you, Sally! I'm delighted to know that you're still in my world. Hope to reconnect some time soon...
And I'll be looking forward to your responses.
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0 # Liliane Grace 2010-12-16 19:07
Quoting Coralie:
I saw this series many years ago and I also enjoyed it. What an insight into people's lives! It would be interesting to see what didn't make the cut into the final documentary.

Also, welcome to the world of blogging! Good to see you here. :-)

Thanks, Coralie! I so agree. The other thing that struck me about the 7 Up program was the question of patterns. I would love to made an in-depth study of the interviews and look for patterns behind childhood expectations and beliefs and what turns up in our lives. Some of those kids had low expectations of life and life delivered what they were expecting, but others seemed to have a very positive expectation and then strike challenge while yet others had a tough start and then the universe gave them an unexpected gift. Would be very interesting to dig out the missing pieces...
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0 # Liliane Grace 2010-12-16 19:30
Quoting Helen Patrice:
I think honesty is nearly always useful. I remember years ago being upset that I seemed to be the only mother in a street full of young mums who wasn't coping. I cried, I suffered what was much later diagnosed as post-natal depression, and I didn't understand why I was the only one crying. My Reiki Master, Rosemary, said that perhaps I was the only one being honest about it, that the others were crying, but behind closed doors, and not questioning how they felt about motherhood.

Hear, hear. I agree with Rosemary. Some years ago I was a real workshop junkie, and I reckon that the honesty I encountered in the various programs was a real gift: discovering that other people had the same feelings, had made the same 'mistakes', had similar fears or hopes was invaluable.
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