Liliane Grace, creative writing, author, keynote speaker, The Mastery Club 

Liliane Grace, creative writing, author, keynote speaker, The Mastery Club 

My New Year’s Resolution to 'Under-Achieve'

I don’t know about you but I arrived at the end of last year feeling quite tired and burnt out.

Over Christmas/New Year, I was tackling so much less that I began to deeply relax… and a digestive issue cleared up all by itself… 

It occurred to me that it would be a grand idea to not set out to be SuperWoman this year by taking on so very much but to instead be more realistic about how much I am likely to be able to achieve in a day and deliberately only tackle that much; to deliberately 'under-achieve’.

You know how we can do things in a blink in our minds? I’m a great one for imagining I can get ready in far less time than I actually need because all the little components (morning prayer ritual, exercise, eat, shower, dress, pack food, pack bag, check emails, etc.) typically take longer in the realm of matter than they do in the realm of mind. So I’ve often found myself running late. It wasn’t until I began, in my mind, to ‘over-estimate’ how much preparation time I would need that I began to arrive on time.

I also reframed being early. I realised I had the subconscious notion that if I was early I’d be wasting time (sitting around twiddling my thumbs when I could have been ticking something else off my list…) so I related the idea of arriving early with feeling relaxed and 'sophisticated’. I don't always pull it off, but when I do it feels much better.

Anyway, here’s my intention for this year: to deliberately tackle less and deliberately value and respect my body’s need for ease and my mind’s need for calm.

Interestingly, there’s a profound spiritual truth at the bottom of this decision, and that is trusting in Divine Order. When we are rushing around trying to do a million things we are subconsciously stating that we lack time and we lack the trust that things will flow into our lives in an orderly fashion; we are acting as if we need to 'make it' happen. 

I know that I had fallen into this pattern yet again by the end of last year, and I was becoming distracted by too many tasks that 'might' deliver results. I was putting my faith in the restless external rather than in the changeless, eternal, ‘inner’ principles from which everything flows anyway. 

There's another principle that might appear to be contradictory, and that's the idea 'If you need something done, give it to a busy person', but it's not actually contradictory at all because we are much more productive when we are in a calm, 'eye of the storm' state rather than rushing around like a headless chook...

So here's to valuing and upholding that calm, relaxed and trusting state this year, and returning to it whenever I've lost the plot... Watch this space! :-)

 

If you found this blog interesting, my ebook or articles Living With Grace includes several other articles along similar lines that might interest you, such as 'Birth and Death of the SuperWoman' and 'Going with the Flow… or the Lemmings’/ You might also be interested in my blog re language patterns and forcing results, ‘Bali Belly Insights’, and in Chapter 36 of The Hidden Order, 'SuperWoman Learns How To Create Time’.

Being Negative Is Good For Your Health!

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You might instinctively react to the statement that ‘being negative is good for your health’ with a ‘No way! Being negative causes depression and other destructive states of mind, whereas being positive is a creative, optimistic state that is productive and encouraging and hopeful!’ – but if you are familiar with earthing and ions you’ll know that ‘it ain’t necessarily so…’

Most of our modern world activities, especially those involving computers, generate positive ions, whereas the earth generates negative ions. Generally speaking, positive ions cause stress and dis-ease, and negative ions create feelings of relaxation and generate healing.

Interesting, isn’t it? We’re so quick to be positive about the positive and negative about the negative, yet both of those concepts have both positive and negative manifestations – the Law of Polarity itself! You’ll never get a one-sided anything, and so positivity itself is not purely positive, and neither is negativity purely negative.

If you travel further down this road, you’ll soon find that positivity and negativity are also only surface appearances because the longer you sit with something that appears to be negative, the more you find the blessings and benefits in it, and the longer you examine something that appears to be purely positive, the more you’ll find the cracks and flaws in it.

I discovered this when I instigated my ‘Two Handed Meditation’, where I hold out both hands, palms up, and deliberately give thanks for all the ‘positive’ events in my life, imagining them sitting in the palm of my right hand, and then give equal thanks for all the ‘negative’ events in my life, imagining them poised in my left hand. Funnily enough, I’ve usually barely started with the negatives when their benefits become apparent: ‘This’ challenging person is teaching me courage or self-trust or assertiveness or patience or encouraging me to reflect and step down from an arrogant position; ‘that’ challenging health issue is typically inviting me to take more care of myself. Very useful!

On the other hand (literally!), ‘this’ lovely, supportive person is quite possibly keeping me small and dependent, and ‘that’ physical freedom and health could be causing me to take my flexibility and range of movement for granted… The ‘Two-Handed Meditation’ experience is very grounding and gratitude-generating. Give it a try!

Speaking of ‘grounding’, have you read Earthing - The Most Important Health Discovery Ever by Clint Ober, Stephen T Sinatra M.D., and Martin Zucker? This wonderful book explains exactly how the positive ions generated by our modern world cause us significant dis-ease, while the activities and negative ions generated by the earth beneath our feet are profoundly healing.

‘We humans, as all other living beings, are electrical creatures on an electrical planet, and the ground beneath us is more than something we just stand, walk, play and build on.’

It turns out that our Earth has such a significant negative charge that it can quite easily overwhelm the positive charge we build up in our bodies through disconnection from the earth and exposure to electromagnetic frequencies. We’ve become disconnected from the earth by wearing rubber and plastic-soled shoes, walking on wood and asphalt, and also by saturating ourselves in EMFs. We ‘ground’ ourselves by making skin contact with the earth, whether directly through the soles of our bare feet to grass/dirt or to concrete, since it conducts the charge, or through a range of earthing products (see below).

Grounding or Earthing gives rise to a whole host of healing experiences. Being ‘earthed’ or ‘grounded’ helps people to relax, sleep more deeply, require less sleep, and heal from a broad range of illnesses including heart disease, high blood pressure and arrhythmias, lumps, allergies, arthritis, back and joint pain, sciatica, fibromyalgia, digestive issues, electrosensitivity, sleep apnea, varicose veins and bad circulation, multiple sclerosis, chronic fatigue syndrome, and auto-immune disorders such as rheumatoid arthritis and mixed connective tissue disease.

It enables athletes to recover much more rapidly from aches and pains and injuries/wounds, and all of us to ‘de-stress’ and energise. It balances our hormones and our emotions, helps to calm children with autism and enhance their ability to connect, and might even assist with fertility. It counteracts jet lag and can relieve fatigue for long-distance drivers; it is the ultimate ‘anti-inflammatory’ and anti-ageing tool, and it won’t cause any ‘side effects’! And it’s good for our pets too.

(You’ll find more info at www.EarthingOz.com.au or www.earthinginstitute.net as well as a range of products you can buy such as ‘grounding sheets’ for your bed and ‘grounding mats’ for working at the computer. I’ll be ordering mine too!)

The Law of Polarity is so profound and so powerful that every time a judgement is made in one direction, the exact opposite is birthed simultaneously. In other words, as I explained in The Hidden Order (Chapter 52), when someone becomes committed to peace, someone, somewhere in the world, is simultaneously becoming committed to war.

When my editor and master of metaphysics, Tim Marlowe, pointed this out to me, I was staggered. It sounds crazy and wrong, doesn’t it? But it’s a principle of this universe that is designed into the system to maintain balance and homeostasis. No matter how ‘positive’ and ‘good’ something looks to us, there’s always another, deeper, aspect in the opposite direction. The Yin/Yang symbol warns us of this dynamic via the dot in each half of that symbol.

If we align ourselves fiercely with one polarity we are simultaneously producing an equal amount of the opposite, even if that idea utterly offends us! The particle and anti-particle are birthed in the same moment; it’s a law of physics.

You can see this balancing effect on a large scale in the world today in the fascinating dynamic where, on the one hand we have the push towards computer-based inventions and artificial intelligence and digital ‘short cuts’ and high-powered shakes and potions, and on the other hand, a push towards the simpler life as more and more people embrace ‘slow food’ or ‘earthy’ raw food, yoga, massage, meditation… It’s also apparent in the irony that, as we ‘progress’ and ‘evolve’ away from dirt-floor shanties, bare foot living and unprocessed food to high-rises, high heels and the high life, we are simultaneously causing breakdown in our physical, mental and emotional health…

We can’t cheat the system, and when we understand the principles it becomes quite fun to go looking for how they manifest.

By the way, if you’re like me, you might have felt offended that femininity is associated with yin energy and negativity and masculinity with yang energy and positivity. It didn’t seem fair! But knowing that negativity harbours great gifts and is the source of deep relaxation and healing kind of redresses the balance, don’t you think?

Since you’re at your computer or device reading this, check out Earthing by Clint Ober et al, and then go outside and sit with both bare feet on the grass or the soil or even the concrete (it conducts ‘the charge’). Hold out your two hands, palms up, and generate some gratitude for both negative and positive experiences (charges) in your life. While you’re at it, our beautiful and gentle Mother Earth will be grounding you, drawing the stress-generating positive ions out of you and saturating you with healing and relaxing negative ions. Mmmm…

Are You Watering Concrete?

I’ve just started a Qi Gung class and when I was the only one to turn up for one class, the Qi Gung master and I settled into a long conversation about energy and healing. In the midst of it he made a comment about 'watering concrete’. The image was so striking that I cannot now recall why he said it or what came either before or after that comment.

'What a great title for a blog or newsletter,' I was thinking (which is the other reason why I didn’t hear what he said after that comment). 'I’ll write it when I get home…' only to find myself sitting in judgement on the concept of watering concrete. It was clearly a criticism of someone, something, some sort of action, but perhaps there was something useful to extract from the apparently pointless exercise of watering concrete… ?

I decided to use writing, my medium, to find out. So I leapt off into the unknown with one idea, the idea of ‘owning' concrete-watering. After all, if that idea had grabbed my attention so strongly, it must be reflecting something in me; there must be a message in it for me. 

I wrote one line, ‘I water concrete’, and the rest flowed out…

 

I water concrete.

I spray it energetically,
blasting that hard grey expanse
with a powerful spray of
rainbow-shimmering water,
confident that it will grow.

It 
does
not.

Instead it reflects me back
from its clean grey surface
and I see myself there,
hopeful, patient, industrious,
intent on working miracles.

I used to judge Italian mamas
for hosing concrete. What
a waste of:
water
energy
resources
time!

But perhaps there is a kernel,
the seed of something useful 
in this act?

Much as we love the 
soft dark earth,
Much as we treasure its 
ability to put forth shoots,
Much as we value greenery
and growth and nature,
perhaps… sometimes…
our task is to 
simply
water
concrete.

***

Having written this poem, I am reminded of the story of the Man and the Rock that I read in Why Me? Kicking Cancer and Other Life - Changing Stuff by Yvonne Chamberlain:

‘A man was sleeping in his cabin when suddenly it became filled with light and God appeared before him. The Lord told the man that He had work for him to do, and showed him a large rock, explaining that he was to push against the rock with all his might. This the man did, and for many days he toiled from sunup to sundown, his shoulder set squarely against the cold massive surface of the rock, pushing with all his might. Each night the man returned to his cabin sore and worn out, feeling his whole day had been spent in vain.

‘Seeing that the man showed signs of discouragement, Satan decided to enter the picture, placing thoughts in the man's mind, such as “Why kill yourself over this? You're never going to move it!” or “Boy, you've been at it a long time and you haven't even scratched the surface!” thus giving the man the impression that the task was impossible and the man was an unworthy servant because he wasn't succeeding in moving the massive stone.

‘These thoughts discouraged and disheartened him and he started to ease up in his efforts. “Why kill myself?” he thought. “I'll just put forth the minimum effort and that will be good enough.” And this he did, or at least planned on doing, until, one day, he decided to take his troubles to the Lord.

‘“Lord,” he said, “I have laboured long and hard in Your service, putting forth all my strength to do that which You have asked of me. Yet after all this time, I have not even budged that rock half a millimetre. What is wrong? Why am I failing?'”

‘To this the Lord responded compassionately, “My friend, when long ago I asked you to serve Me and you accepted, I told you to push against the rock with all your strength and that you have done. But never once did I mention to you that I expected you to move it. At least not by yourself. Your task was to push.

‘“And now you come to Me, your strength spent, thinking that you have failed, ready to quit. But is this really so? Look at yourself. Your arms are strong and muscled; your back sinewed and brown. Your hands are calloused from constant pressure and your legs have become massive and hard. Through opposition you have grown much and your ability now far surpasses that which you used to have. True, you haven’t moved the rock. But your calling was to be obedient and to push and to exercise your faith and trust in My Wisdom. That you have done.

‘“Now, my friend, I will move the rock.”’

***

Do we ever truly know what our purpose is? Buckminster Fuller claimed that our true purpose is always at a 90 degree angle to our perceived purpose. In other words, we can't see it! We think our purpose is 'abc' but it turns out to be 'xyz', just as the bee thinks its purpose is to collect nectar when its real purpose is to pollinate the plants it passes over...

Have fun watering concrete! 

What Is Success TO YOU? The Baker Gets Me Thinking...

I was sitting in a business breakfast yesterday morning listening to the famous Beechworth Baker, Tom O’Toole (who is both very inspiring and very entertaining), when he asked the audience the following question: ‘What is success for you?’ and suddenly I realised that, where business was concerned, I had been defining success as something that was still to come.

Immediately I decided to change that definition so that success no longer has to do with book sales (in the future) or number of Mastery Club programs being run (in the future) or number of Facilitators teaching programs (in the future) or number of my writings published (in the future).

I decided to make success something I could absolutely and utterly tick off each and every day. Something that was vitally important to me – in fact, so important that if I didn’t achieve it today and tomorrow and the next day, those other definitions of success had about as much chance of being realised as the proverbial snowball in hell.

I decided to focus on the one factor that has been letting me down, and, coincidentally the very reason that I am building The Mastery Club® business.

The factor? My self-talk. It’s the most powerful and critical element in achieving anything we want to achieve, and I’ve been drawn to write my book and create my program because we teach what we most need to learn... But lately I’ve been far too reactive to appearances and have been letting my past dictate my future far too much. My treasured Mastermind buddies, Georgia Ellis and Cheryl (Chez) Pollock have picked me up on this a number of times over the last few months. It’s a very squirmy feeling to realise that you are not walking your very public talk…

It’s time for me to nail that lesson and move on to the next one!

My decision? I can focus on speaking and thinking consciously for one day at a time, and if I do, that is success for that day. Naturally, enough of those day-at-a-time-successes and all my big future goals are in the bag.

So what is success to me? Conscious, responsible talk TODAY that affirms possibility, trust, gratitude and abundance.

What is it for you???

Promoting Realities Instead of Myths

Last week I blogged about the myths of ‘Talent’, ‘Mastery’, ‘Gurus’ and ‘Ideal Partners’ so I figured it would only be fair to blog about the realities this week. Here’s my take…

‘Talent’

Writing powerfully is no mystery. There are simple strategies for overcoming writer’s block that all tackle the core issue: an over-zealous internal editor, often masquerading as a critic. When we trust and accept what we’re writing, our writing flows. That might seem to be an over-simplification, but it’s absolutely true. The proof is in the pudding of application. If you dedicate yourself to practising trust and kindness, your words will flow.

The same dedication is required to produce good writing. ‘Talent’ is not a mysterious gift of the gods; it’s not a case of being lucky or destined. ‘Talent’ is about skill, pure and simple. The people who demonstrate it have been applying themselves longer or more diligently or with greater attention than most. They apply themselves because they enjoy the activity itself; they love the practice of it as much as the results so they persist through the painful learning stage. They stay in the game, developing greater and greater levels of skill.

Good writing is the simple outcome of packing your prose with sensory-specific detail and action. If you do that, your writing will sing. If you lapse into generalisations and abstractions, your reader will begin to snooze. A simple example is the statement, ‘She was angry’. Written like that, it’s a boring, static, statement of fact. But if we bring it to life by showing how we know that the character is angry  – ‘Her face reddened. She reached across and slapped him ’ – now we have a story. We know she is angry rather than having to take the writer’s word for it.

Inside the word ‘SHOW’ is the word ‘HOW’. Ask yourself how you know something is so, and then show it, and your writing will sizzle. The same applies if you want to give an impactful presentation. Scour your speech for vagueness and eliminate all such phrases! Make sure that your audience can see, hear, feel, small, taste, ‘touch’ what you are talking about. The shortcut to a powerful presentation is concrete detail; the shortcut to a distracted or daydreaming audience is generalisations and abstractions.

Mastery & Gurus

My last blog acknowledged that mastery is a process and that gurus are human too. Those are the realities. The true master is the one who keeps picking herself/himself up and starting again. There are lots of great posters on Facebook and Pinterest etc. proclaiming that exact principle.

Last Tuesday, when I was talking about things I was doing to market myself, I was suddenly struck by the realisation that I’ve been keeping track of the various delays and disappointments more diligently than my achievements and little milestones. Tut tut… I realised that I am out there walking my talk and persistently applying myself to my purpose and mission even though doors appear to be closing in my face. The fact that I’m persevering counts for a lot!

It really doesn’t serve us to only take note of our 'failures'. In fact, it occurred to me that if I was coaching a Mastery Club student, I’d be cheering his or her many small successes rather than discounting them and looking for the big win. Duh? So why not do that with me as well? It was a good wake-up call.

Ideal Partner

For some 10 yrs my primary relationship was ‘stuck’. Why was it stuck? Because I was creating that.

When I first learned about NLP in the 80s I was struck by the following: a client would describe some undesired behaviour and the practitioner would ask, ‘So how are you doing that?’ In other words, no behaviour comes out of the clear blue sky; if we are experiencing undesirable results in our life, we only need to track backwards to what we have been doing, thinking, saying, feeling, etc.

So how was I creating a stuck relationship? By talking negatively about it, by dwelling on my partner’s perceived faults and inadequacies, by affirming our lack of ability to create change, by looking for greener grass… As soon as I focused on what worked, on his strengths, on our potential, on the ‘good things’, I saw him completely differently, felt differently about him, related differently, and began to feel more optimistic about our future together. I also began to apply ye old principle of the mirror: whatever you see ‘out there’ is a reflection of what is ‘in here’.

Nowadays whenever I get cross with him or critical of him, within seconds I can see where I do it too or how him doing it serves me, and I’m able to get off my judgement immediately. Voilà: perfect relationship…

Caroline Myss makes the thought-provoking observation that once we are calibrated to a higher spiritual truth we can’t go back; we can no longer live in ignorant bliss; we have rights and responsibilities.

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